So you and your spouse have made the tough decision that you want to get divorced, but that’s all that you’ve decided (because now you’re not speaking to each other). You’re proactive so you look into some options to get divorced and you come across a handsome attorney’s website that offers divorce mediation. After checking out the website you think divorce mediation will be the best option for you and your spouse. You tell your spouse that you want to set up a consultation for the two of you, but your spouse doesn’t want to come or participate. Now what?
It’s definitely preferred that both spouses attend the initial consultation so they can both get an idea of the process, meet the mediator, and have enough information to jointly decide if divorce mediation is right for them. The mediator also needs to evaluate both parties. So in order for the divorce mediation to proceed both parties have to be on board. But, I have had situations where only one spouse attends the initial consultation. It’s not the end of the world. In those instances, the information that is provided during the consultation is relayed to the other spouse and I’ve also let them know that if they have any questions they can reach out to me directly to help them make a decision.
Ultimately, if your spouse doesn’t want to participate in the divorce mediation, but you still want to get divorced then one spouse would need to file for the divorce with the court to start the divorce case. From there they have a couple of options: (1) they can represent themselves, (2)hire an attorney, or (3) get limited scope representation. Limited Scope Representation involves the attorney acting like a coach and consultant helping one spouse through each step in the divorce process that they agree to have the attorney help them with. It can be as little as preparing the paperwork to file with the divorce to start the divorce, and/or include preparing and responding to discovery, completing financial affidavits, filing motions for orders, prepping for hearings, and prepping for the final trial, or preparing the final agreement if the couple settle.
Our office offers limited scope representation for spouses who are representing themselves but still need some help from an attorney. The Limited Scope Representation model is a great option for controlling the costs associated with a contested divorce. If you are considering alternatives to going it alone and representing yourself, then please give us a call to discuss how Limited Scope Representation can help you navigate the divorce process.
